Seven Ways for Dads to Ruin Their Kids

Dad’s, want to ruin your kids?

Here are seven sure-fire ways to do it:

1. Don’t inconvenience yourself with managing the home. Rather, leave it to your wife. That will pretty well ensure a shrill atmosphere as she carries the emotional burden of running the household. Don’t let her rely upon you as a backup in discipline or in setting a positive tone. In time she will burn out and grow resentful, but you will be free to continue an adolescent lifestyle of self-indulgence through your adult years. “He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him with proper respect. (1 Timothy 3:4)

2. Don’t bother to encourage your kids. As one old man told me, “When I was growing up there werent enough atta boys.‘” When the kid gets a “B” on his report card, jump on him; when your boy strikes out in Little League, let him know he should have done better (never mind the fact that he hit .333 for the day). “Fathers, do not exasperate your children (Ephesians 6:4a) (See Genesis 31:14, 15; 1 Samuel 20:30-34; Colossians 3:21)

3. Choose not to get personally involved in their lives. That is, give directives. Be the boss. Keep your distance emotionally. Never say, “Im sorry. Stay at the office longer, and miss their ball games and concerts. Bring your work home with you. Don’t bother to tuck them in at night or tell them stories. Be a perfectionist. Scold them when they spill their milk. Be sparse in handing out affirmation or compliments. “We dealt with each of you as a father deals with his own children, encouraging, comforting and urging you to live lives worthy of God (1 Thessalonians 2:11b, 12b) (See Matthew 7:9, 10)

4. Don’t worry about modeling the values you claim to embrace. Ignore the fact that your kids desperately need a dad who is genuinely authentic. “I will be careful to lead a blameless lifeI will walk in my house with blameless heart. (Psalm 101:2a,c)

5. Absolve yourself from the responsibility of instructing your children in spiritual matters. Leave it up to your wife or the church. That will pretty much guarantee the fact that the boys will view Christianity as a weak proposition. Your daughters, in all likelihood will look for men like their father: Spiritually insipid. “Fathersbring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. (Ephesians 6:4a,c) (See Genesis 18:19)

6. Stunt their development by exercising such a standard of control and perfection that a lack of trust is communicated. Could a father’s actions here reflect his lack of confidence in how he raised them? “(Love) always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. (1 Corinthians 13:7) (See Romans 15:1)

7. Criticize and undermine your wife, especially in front of the children. Never demonstrate affection toward her in their presence. Allow the kids to drive a wedge between the two of you. Argue a lot, and be sure to always “win.” “Husbandsbe considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respectand do not be harsh with them. (1 Peter 3:7a,c; Colossians 3:19b) (See Ecclesiastes 9:9; Proverbs 5:18, 19; Ephesians 5:25, 28, 29)

Taken from: Facts of the Matter: Daily Devotionals.

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