Sermon Outline 4/10/11

Leading and Feeding the Family Flock (Ephesians 6:4; Colossians 3:21) 4/10/11

“It is from God that parents receive their children, and it is to God that they should lead them.” Dietrich Bonhoeffer.

Main Point: Godly families don’t happen by luck or accident!  They are the product of intentional dedication to God’s plan for parenting and walking in daily dependence upon the Lord.

Unconcerned parents are some of the most powerful servants of the devil in all the world and the deadliest enemies of their children’s souls.

If we would lead rightly and feed faithfully then we must know that there is…

I. A Behavior to Avoid (do not provoke your children to anger)

a. The Command Explained

i.      Some ways that we provoke our children to anger

1.       Unfairness

2.       Inconsistency

3.       Severity

4.       Hypocrisy

5.       Unrealistic expectations that lead to fault-finding

ii.      Proverbs is a wonderful training tool for fathers as well as children.

b. The Command Applied

i.      Don’t lead them like servants, but children, making clear that your restraints are for their good.

ii.      One of the great challenges is to avoid severity as well as spoiling.

II. A Lifestyle to Nourish (but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord)

a. The Command Explained

i.      Same  word as in 5:29

ii.      Petersen paraphrase – “take them by the hand and lead them in the way of the master.”

iii.      Philipp’s paraphrase – “Fathers, don’t over-correct your children or make it difficult for them to obey the commandment. Bring them up with Christian teaching in Christian discipline.”

b. The Command Applied

i.      Be under no false illusions about their innocence – be a realist when it comes to their corrupted state.

ii.      If you would train them to follow God’s authority you must first train them to obey your own authority.

iii.      Teach them that your commands come from Scripture (use proof texts!)

iv.      Make a life of holiness desirable to them.

v.      Model biblical contentment

vi.      Teach them moderation…don’t overindulge bodily appetites.

vii.      Teach them to keep extra-curricular activities in perspective.

viii.     Above all – teach them how the gospel is the answer to failure… your and theirs!


2 thoughts on “Sermon Outline 4/10/11

  1. Point (i )cannot be overstated. I believe that honesty about their current state should never be seen as a point that makes them feel bad about themselves. However it is the place where we stop take note of the current situation and help them with honesty and discipline, to make the changes necessary to get them back on track with God. If overlooked or just taken lightly this can be the time at which the parent has failed the test. Kids want to know that their parents have rules and standards that are set because they are loved and valuable to their God, their family, and the world that they are an important part of. Also, that their decisions in life do affect others either positively or negatively!

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